Heal Your Family Relationships
Your Body’s Courtroom. Know How it Works.
The origin of stress and dis-ease lies within you and your relationship between your heart and mind. Although they are connected sometimes it is possible to have breakdowns in communication that result from not understanding the relationship between them. This relationship can be likened to a courtroom.
Your heart develops in the foetus before your brain, it does not need your brain to tell it to beat and it sends more messages to your brain than your brain does to your heart. Your heart has it’s own complex structure that is also known as the heart brain. Your emotions are a message that reflects how your heart is perceiving the judgments of your head. If your head is the judge in your body’s courtroom then your heart is the jury. In this 4min 17sec video I explain this relationship:
If you want a healthier heart then make sure that you are listening to your jury before making the judgments.
May you run a fair and happy courtroom within your body,
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Intention. How setting yours can increase your heart health.
In everything you do in your life your intent will determine your outcome. If you intend to find fault – you will. If you intend to get revenge – you will. If you intend to love – you will.
As non-positive intent yields non-positive outcomes we will only ever be focusing on a POSITIVE intention.
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Being aware of your intention at any given moment is the fastest way to move towards positive outcomes more often. Intend for what you want – or you will get what you don’t want. Intend to have fun as well, now that your intent is positive.
Wishing you a most wonderful week (my intention for you),
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Hug someone and feel instantly better.
There are many ways that you can increase your heart health but, in my opinion, there are few methods as effective and gratifying than giving someone a hug and feeling instantly better.
In the UK we tend to be a little more reserved than many of our European neighbours. When I started going into London and handing out free hugs I realised just what a huge difference that it was possible to make in the way that I felt and how that impacted those around me.
Also, every year I go into London on Christmas Eve to have a bit of fun and share the Christmas spirit. Here’s what happened last year….
Feel free to join in the fun at https://www.facebook.com/OfficialLoveFreeHugs
Heart Dis-ease – Do You Know The Early Warning Symptoms That Doctors Don’t Tell You About?
Having spent so many years working on Cardiac Care Units and lost close family members to sudden heart attacks, I know the devastating effects that a heart attack can lead to. So many lives are ripped apart each year through the failure to understand and diagnose the early warning signs.
A heart attack is the result of your head not understanding the everyday messages of your heart.
Your heart is not just the muscle that pumps blood around your body, keeping you alive, it is also the centre of your emotional intelligence. The energy of your heart manifests through your emotions (energy in motion).
Allowing this energy to run and taking the time to feel what is going on in your body, without judgment, is the way that your heart likes to interact with your head. However, because emotional intelligence is not taught at school and so much emphasis is placed on intellectual intelligence, millions of people die prematurely every year from heart attacks.
The facts speak for themselves.
According to cardiacmatters.co.uk facts and figures someone dies from a heart attack in the UK every 6 minutes. In the US this figure is nearer 1 person every minute. Of the 146,000 people who have a heart attack in the UK every year, 94,000 of them die. On top of this, 179 people in the UK lose a parent every day because of a fatal heart attack.
The symptoms usually start many years before a heart attack.
I have spent many years speaking to people who had just had a heart attack and there are many common themes. Although there are some people who do not experience some of the following symptoms, everyone who has a heart attack experience over half of the following….
- Feeling stuck in a job or relationship for an extended period of time
- At least one, sometimes more, very poor family relationship(s)
- A poor relationship with yourself
- Low motivation for an extended period
- Not wanting to get out of bed
- High stress for a sustained duration
- A need to please others before themselves
- Feeling misunderstood or unappreciated
- Always compromising – and feeling resentful about it
- Increasing aches and pains in their body
- Complaining on a regular basis
- Short, stabbing pains in their chest, sometimes only lasting a fraction of a second
- An emptiness or feeling that something is missing – and no idea what it is
These are just some of the warning signs.
Knowing that all of these things happen when the IQ of your brain overrules the IQ of your heart on a consistent basis can help you to identify the early warning signs of heart disease. When your head starts judging emotions and making them good or bad, your emotions get repressed and your heart cannot function properly. This is the foundation of heart dis-ease.
The good news is that heart dis-ease can be reversed if it is caught early enough.
In order to reverse the symptoms you must first become proficient at identifying them. Do you trust your feelings? Start by considering one simple question: “Would you or the people you love benefit from you learning to identify the early warning symptoms of heart disease that most doctors don’t tell you about?”
If you have time then you can watch my keynote speech on Heart Health at The Yes Group in London…
Are you using your mobile phone for a healthier heart?
Believe it or not, your mobile phone is currently affecting the health of your heart. Find out how in this week’s video…
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What is Zen for Your Heart and What Really Pisses You Off?
This may be a tough one to take but we all have bad moments, myself included.
Having a healthy heart is not about perfection or being nice all the time. Sometimes it’s good to get passionate. Whether that passion comes through in love or intense frustration, it doesn’t matter. Whether one is better than the other is a judgment that is not necessarily true or productive.
The Healthy Heart Academy is all about balance.
Being spiritual or living a spiritual life does not mean being happy all the time, staying positive or holding back how you really feel. We all have bad days – The only question is:
Can You Laugh at Yourself Afterwards…..
Is Your Heart Forgiving?
Life will frequently throw you some testing times, events or situations. When you become angry, bitter hurt or resentful for an extended period of time then this will affect your heart adversely. This is for certain.
Such unresolved feelings will not help your heart. It doesn’t matter whether you are a world class athlete, with a world class diet and no bad habits at all. If you are holding angry, bitter feelings over time then your heart will be at risk.
Allowing Your Heart to Forgive is Easier Said Than Done.
I would never wish to underplay this complicated area of health and wellbeing. If someone has done something terrible to you then finding a resolution that feels better may not be as easy to do as just thinking loving thoughts.
In this video I explain how some people are just naturally better at forgiving than others…
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Do you have harmonious relationships with all of your close family members and are you aware how this can affect your heart and energy on a daily basis?
People who I looked after that had close family relationships, laughing and joking with their loved ones in hospital would often be full of life and vitality just minutes before they went to bed for the last time, smiling and passing away in their sleep. This was incredible to witness and always gave me hope that death could be a potentially pleasant experience. After all, we all get to die one day – it is only a question of how.
One of the biggest issues that came up repeatedly during my time as a nurse that affected heart health and energy was unresolved family relationships.
I found that much suffering occurred, especially with patients with cancer and heart disease. It is not that issues with family relationships were exclusive to these two areas, just that these are the two illnesses that I had the most experience in dealing with.
I would ask those who suffered the most at the end of their life what their family relationships were like. Without exception, there was always at least one unresolved connection. Conversely, those who experienced virtually no suffering at the end of their lives reported harmonious relationships with all of their family.
Is this a coincidence?
I think not. If you know anyone who is holding a grudge towards a close family member then you can be certain that it is taking a toll on their heart, health, energy and wellbeing. Whilst they may feel that there is nothing that can be done and just soldier on with life, brushing it under the carpet, just one day on an acute medical ward speaking to those who suffer the most about their family relationships would give you conclusive evidence that this was not a good idea.
For anyone holding a grudge towards a family member I would suggest getting professional help to get through it. Otherwise, if you live long enough to die naturally, there will almost certainly be a price to pay.
But you don’t understand Adam…….
I realise that this is no light issue. For those who have suffered violence and/or abuse during their upbringing it is less than easy to let go and forgive family who seemingly position themselves as impossible to love. Reaching resolution in such cases almost always requires professional help. It is not my aim to underplay what has happened in the past.
The purpose of this post is to highlight what may well await those in the future who are currently feeling anger, resentment and/or stuck in the past. What is often hard to accept, until you have seen it for yourself hundreds of times, is that all such feelings affect you more than anyone else and act as poison to your heart, unless resolved.
In the exercise in this video I will take you through a process that can help.
Depending on the depth of the issue this may or may not help. I have found that resolving testing family relationships is not always a quick and easy process. Sometimes it takes time. In this instance it is my aim to plant a seed that will allow you to open yourself to the possibility that one day you may reach a more harmonious resolution that increases the wellness of your heart, your energy and every other relationship in your life.
If you are not ready to resolve your family relationship challenges right now, then I cannot recommend enough the importance of getting professional help for this, or it is likely to slowly drain your life-force away, taking a huge toll on your heart and massively increasing your risk of a heart attack.
The exercise in the following video may not instantly resolve all of your family relationship issues but it will lay a foundation for the path that could lead you to a healthier heart and a more harmonious future in relating to your family.
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A car is a machine, powered by an engine. It needs regular maintenance for optimum performance. Your heart is your engine. What are you doing to make sure that it’s working properly?
In the UK 1 person dies every 6 minutes of heart disease. Worldwide, 1 person dies at least every 4.5 seconds. Heart disease is the biggest killer on the planet. This is because, unlike car MOTs; heart MOTs are not yet mandatory.
What is a heart MOT?
A test of your heart’s happiness in certain key areas: Your relationships with your friends, your family and yourself. You can do this yourself or may find it easier with someone helping you.
How can I do that?
Through taking time to realise what makes your heart happy, understanding what doesn’t and changing it so that it does. A regular heart MOT is essential for your heart maintenance and can improve your health, your relationships and your life. It can help to free up thoughts that don’t make you feel good and replace them with ones that do.
It’s not just what you think….
Thinking is a sensation of your brain. Feeling is a sensation from your heart.
Your heart has a separate intelligence from your brain. It beats independently of your brain, it sends more signals to your brain than your brain sends back and it is your engine. When you think about your feelings it is easy to get caught in over-analysis.
Negative emotions do not exist.
There is a perception amongst many that you experience both positive and negative emotions. This is a lie. Every emotion that you experience is a moment-to-moment guidance system of how you feel during any given interaction. Having the ability to feel emotions like sadness, anger and hurt is part of Being Human.
If you like a certain moment, enjoy it and repeat it. Just remembering a moment that made you feel good can make you feel good again. Doing this is very good for your heart
An exercise to help add some zen to your heart.
Start by asking what you would like to attract more of in your life right now? Whether you are looking for more love, happiness, freedom, wealth or fun, maybe it’s something completely different, that’s ok. It’s all right to create an image of you having it in the future if you can’t think of a strong enough memory. Whatever would make you feel better quickly; think about it now.
As you think about that memory, recreate the feeling. Stop and do this now.
Thinking of things that make you feel better more often is the fast-track to a healthy heart MOT. The longer that you focus on what you want, the more likely you are of getting it.
Having a healthy heart is about being able to navigate a way to feeling better from even the most challenging of places. The more you practice, the better you get.
Wishing you well on your heart MOT,
P.s Knowing exactly what you want and why you want it is the first step to getting it.
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