Heal Your Family Relationships
Your Body’s Courtroom. Know How it Works.
The origin of stress and dis-ease lies within you and your relationship between your heart and mind. Although they are connected sometimes it is possible to have breakdowns in communication that result from not understanding the relationship between them. This relationship can be likened to a courtroom.
Your heart develops in the foetus before your brain, it does not need your brain to tell it to beat and it sends more messages to your brain than your brain does to your heart. Your heart has it’s own complex structure that is also known as the heart brain. Your emotions are a message that reflects how your heart is perceiving the judgments of your head. If your head is the judge in your body’s courtroom then your heart is the jury. In this 4min 17sec video I explain this relationship:
If you want a healthier heart then make sure that you are listening to your jury before making the judgments.
May you run a fair and happy courtroom within your body,
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Breathing: Your Key to Controlling Your Mood.
Your heart is a pump.
It’s role is to pump blood to your lungs, which picks up Oxygen and transports it to the rest of your body. Having a fresh supply of oxygen in your lungs is essential to the running of your body.
However, most people slip into breathing habits that are not so good for their body, mind or heart, using only a small percentage of their lung’s capacity.
This shallow breathing can cause a build up of waste products in your lungs and lead to many symptoms, such as:
- Inability to focus on one task to completion very often
- Low motivation
- Increased levels of stress
- Increased irritability
- Strained relationships
- Hypertension (high blood pressure)
- Tachycardia (fast pulse rate)
Poor Breathing can be Bad for Your Mood!
In this week’s video I explain how you can breathe properly.
DO THIS REGULARLY and your mood will improve, along with your ability to relate to others.
Have a great week of proper breathing,
Next week we look at how your family relationships affect the health of your heart.
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Intention. How setting yours can increase your heart health.
In everything you do in your life your intent will determine your outcome. If you intend to find fault – you will. If you intend to get revenge – you will. If you intend to love – you will.
As non-positive intent yields non-positive outcomes we will only ever be focusing on a POSITIVE intention.
For a demonstration, join me for 2 mins 31 secs
Being aware of your intention at any given moment is the fastest way to move towards positive outcomes more often. Intend for what you want – or you will get what you don’t want. Intend to have fun as well, now that your intent is positive.
Wishing you a most wonderful week (my intention for you),
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Grounding. A Key Tool in the Prevention of Heart Disease.
There are many ways to increase your heart health and chances of living a longer and happier life. Perhaps the fastest, easiest to do and most effective method is grounding. In the video below I explain what it is and how you can do it.
Here is an explanation that I give of some of how grounding affects your energy and what happens when you are not grounded.
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Shit Happens! Death on an NHS Toilet.
When life gets heavy and you feel as though you would just like the ground to open up and swallow you up; knowing that you will eventually be able to laugh about it is a true gift to your heart. This does not always happen quickly or with every situation that ever challenges you, though it can get easier the more that you do it.
We are all shaped by our past. During 3 years of training as a student nurse, there had always been someone around who was more senior and experienced than me on the ward. If something potentially serious happened, I could always let someone else lead the call. I felt safe.
After 3 weeks of being qualified, I was working on a busy medical ward. When the two most senior nurses decided to go for a morning coffee break together and leave the ward, I was faced with my first ever instance of being the most senior nurse. Leaving a newly qualified nurse in charge would generally be considered less than ideal practice but it was not my decision.
Phones were ringing, patients were demanding my attention, people needed washing, drugs needed to be administered, relatives were demanding updates on patients that I had not even met, and porters were arriving to take patients away for tests, without even letting me know.
This was my life as a newly qualified nurse.
I felt under-qualified, unready and very apprehensive at this prospect. I had never been present for a life or death situation that didn’t have someone around who had led a similar situation before. Yes, I had been given all of the theory and attended resuscitation workshops but I’d never had to do the real thing. I had looked on as a student but that was miles from what was about to happen to me.
When a cleaner strolled over to me and casually mentioned that there was a patient on the toilet who didn’t look too well, I went straight to the cubicle. The cleaner was clearly a master of the understatement.
There was a patient dead on the toilet.
Unless you have been in this situation, it is difficult to describe what happened next. It started with a whirlwind of terror, shock, panic and adrenaline. In this, my first ever cardiac arrest situation that I was in charge of, the man was clearly very dead and any attempt to change that would be futile. However, panic and hospital procedure can be a funny thing.
I asked a Care Assistant to call the resuscitation team and lifted the dead man from the toilet to his bed, on the other side of the ward, with the other Care Assistant. All of the other patients on the ward and their visiting relatives could see us carry him, as it was an open-plan ward. It must have been a surreal sight for them, watching two nurses run across the ward with a dead man but I didn’t have time to think about anything else at that point in time. All I knew was that the handover I received did not give me any reason to believe that the man wasn’t alive and relatively well.
The man was cold, white, stiff and very dead.
He had died on the toilet with a huge, anal bleed. What made it worse was that he must have been there, undetected, since the shift before. I know this as he had riga-mortis, which takes at least 4 hours, usually longer, to set in. I had been on the ward for about an hour and a half. I did not get a full handover because I started an hour later than the rest of the staff that shift. This was part of an initiative to save the hospital money. They saved less than £10 that day on my wages. This was clearly worth the saving for me not getting a proper handover on that particular occasion.
As the resuscitation team arrived, imagine their surprise and my horror to find that we could not lay this man flat because he had riga-mortis.
He had stiffened so that his legs were at a ninety-degree angle. The fact that I had placed an airway in his mouth, an oxygen mask on him and had started the resuscitation process must have looked utterly ridiculous to the team as they rushed through the curtains and looked on in bewilderment. The dead man’s knees narrowly missed my head as he rocked during my cardiac compressions on his chest. I swiftly realised that this must have looked ludicrous, as the aghast resuscitation team stared at me.
I was filled with panic. Hospital procedure stated that if someone is for resuscitation then an emergency call MUST go out when a patient’s heart ceases to beat. It is not usually expected that there will be at least a 4-hour delay for this to happen.
I felt utterly humiliated.
I was subjected to some cutting questions from the doctor in the resuscitation team. My friends laughed at me, as did the senior nurses. I was devastated and terrified to go back to work after this incident. At first, I perceived this as insensitive. However, I eventually saw the funny side, knowing that the night staff should have realised that he was dead before they left the ward, and the rest of the staff on the shift with me had failed to identify that he was dead during the hour before I arrived. Nothing that I could have done would change these facts.
I learned several key lessons very fast.
1. Locate ALL of your patients at the beginning of each shift.
2. Treat all handovers with at least a hint of caution.
3. Shit happens; and for some it’s much worse for some than others.
4. Dealing with death is easier when you learn to see the funny side of things.
5. When you start at the deep end, it gets easier from that point onwards.
Afterwards some of my colleagues would call me over, to clearly dead patients and ask if I wanted to attempt resuscitation before they sent them to the mortuary. There were many laughs at my expense as a result of that incident. Allied with my experience of a psychiatric patient exploding diarrhoea on my foot a day earlier, as I lifted him out of the bath; and the time that my colleague forgot to unhook a patient’s catheter before we rolled them over, flicking infected urine all over my face and chest as the catheter disconnected from it’s bag; I provided many laughs.
By accepting that my colleagues would laugh at me ruthlessly, I was able to laugh at them and the numerous ridiculous episodes that I witnessed as a nurse. This made the job better and cheered me up in many situations that may have caused others to break down.
Humour is an essential tool in the NHS and life in general.
When you realise that you can laugh at yourself and others, life will most certainly get easier for you.
Hug someone and feel instantly better.
There are many ways that you can increase your heart health but, in my opinion, there are few methods as effective and gratifying than giving someone a hug and feeling instantly better.
In the UK we tend to be a little more reserved than many of our European neighbours. When I started going into London and handing out free hugs I realised just what a huge difference that it was possible to make in the way that I felt and how that impacted those around me.
Also, every year I go into London on Christmas Eve to have a bit of fun and share the Christmas spirit. Here’s what happened last year….
Feel free to join in the fun at https://www.facebook.com/OfficialLoveFreeHugs
Heart Dis-ease – Do You Know The Early Warning Symptoms That Doctors Don’t Tell You About?
Having spent so many years working on Cardiac Care Units and lost close family members to sudden heart attacks, I know the devastating effects that a heart attack can lead to. So many lives are ripped apart each year through the failure to understand and diagnose the early warning signs.
A heart attack is the result of your head not understanding the everyday messages of your heart.
Your heart is not just the muscle that pumps blood around your body, keeping you alive, it is also the centre of your emotional intelligence. The energy of your heart manifests through your emotions (energy in motion).
Allowing this energy to run and taking the time to feel what is going on in your body, without judgment, is the way that your heart likes to interact with your head. However, because emotional intelligence is not taught at school and so much emphasis is placed on intellectual intelligence, millions of people die prematurely every year from heart attacks.
The facts speak for themselves.
According to cardiacmatters.co.uk facts and figures someone dies from a heart attack in the UK every 6 minutes. In the US this figure is nearer 1 person every minute. Of the 146,000 people who have a heart attack in the UK every year, 94,000 of them die. On top of this, 179 people in the UK lose a parent every day because of a fatal heart attack.
The symptoms usually start many years before a heart attack.
I have spent many years speaking to people who had just had a heart attack and there are many common themes. Although there are some people who do not experience some of the following symptoms, everyone who has a heart attack experience over half of the following….
- Feeling stuck in a job or relationship for an extended period of time
- At least one, sometimes more, very poor family relationship(s)
- A poor relationship with yourself
- Low motivation for an extended period
- Not wanting to get out of bed
- High stress for a sustained duration
- A need to please others before themselves
- Feeling misunderstood or unappreciated
- Always compromising – and feeling resentful about it
- Increasing aches and pains in their body
- Complaining on a regular basis
- Short, stabbing pains in their chest, sometimes only lasting a fraction of a second
- An emptiness or feeling that something is missing – and no idea what it is
These are just some of the warning signs.
Knowing that all of these things happen when the IQ of your brain overrules the IQ of your heart on a consistent basis can help you to identify the early warning signs of heart disease. When your head starts judging emotions and making them good or bad, your emotions get repressed and your heart cannot function properly. This is the foundation of heart dis-ease.
The good news is that heart dis-ease can be reversed if it is caught early enough.
In order to reverse the symptoms you must first become proficient at identifying them. Do you trust your feelings? Start by considering one simple question: “Would you or the people you love benefit from you learning to identify the early warning symptoms of heart disease that most doctors don’t tell you about?”
If you have time then you can watch my keynote speech on Heart Health at The Yes Group in London…
How would your life change if you could turn guilt into happiness?
Being able to do this is the key to wellbeing. In this week’s video we will take a look at guilt and its role in health.
Whilst most people fall into stereotypical outcomes based on current medical thought, there are those who seem to defy reason.
After spending many hours questioning people who were in pretty good health well into their 80′s and 90′s it soon became clear that their key to wellbeing was the ability to experience happiness where most others experience guilt.
Be honest with yourself and write down everything that you currently do that could be perceived as unhealthy and rate how much guilt you have about it, between 0-10. 0 being no guilt and 10 being a compulsion to immediately repent your “sin” to the nearest clerical figure.
I trust that you will allow yourself to smile once or twice as you work through your list.
Also, feel free to leave a comment below about any aspect of this exercise: challenges, revelations, disagreements or breakthroughs.
Warmest, happy wishes,
Here is an interview that I had on Radio Verulam, where I was interviewed by Energy on his Spiritual Matters show. Here we talked about my journey and what led to the creation of the Walking Energy System…